We are firm believers that, as the saying goes, “the phrase working mother is redundant.” All moms – including those who don’t work outside the home – are working moms!
Today is national Take Our Daughters + Sons to Work Day. That made us think about the pressures – real and imagined – put on women and mothers in the workforce. Here’s how not to give in to MOM GUILT no matter what you do…
“I’ve had to learn to release myself from mom guilt at least a couple times a day,” new mom, and one of LOVE COMMA’s favorite personalities, Mindy Kaling told InStyle Magazine recently.
“That’s been a big one for me,” she continues, “I’m also learning to feel better about asking for help… It’s not profound, but I love my career and I don’t want to make myself feel bad about pursuing both. Just cutting myself some slack has been very helpful for me.”
We agree with Mindy:
– Being just a little easier on yourself can go a long way for you and the loved ones around you. This can be as simple as taking a little time out to step back, breathe deep, and realize that you are doing your best. You don’t have to do it all! If you love your kiddos, and we all do, you’ll make sure what counts happens and what happens counts.
– Asking for help is a game changer, and we all deserve it. There’s a constant learning curve when it comes to parenting. No matter how organized or prepared you are in advance, you can’t predict all the challenges, and what is the point of trying to live up to self-imposed “super-mom” standards anyway? Be like Mindy and learn to give yourself a break!
Here’s some news that should convince you to release the guilt even more…
Romper Magazine reports new research from Harvard Business School finds that as much as moms worry that their career focus is having a negative impact on their children, in fact the opposite might be true.
From Romper: The study found that adults who were raised by working moms were “more likely to have jobs themselves, [were] more likely to hold supervisory responsibility at those jobs,” and were more likely to earn higher wages. Men raised by working mothers were also “more likely to contribute to household chores,” and to spend more time in caretaker roles.
That doesn’t mean, of course, that women who stay at home aren’t also offering their children something invaluable — far from it — but it does at least suggest that the internal guilt struggle many of us have about… our careers is totally unnecessary.
Need even more encouragement and inspiration? Here’s a handy guide to help you change your mindset about mom guilt from our friends at Working Mother Magazine: 25 Things No Working Mom Should Ever Feel Guilty for